I think I'm in an abusive relationship. What do I do?

[Kayla]

Sorry for the paragraph..
We've been dating for two years. I'm 16 and he's 19. We don't live together. He dropped out of college and isn't financially stable and isn't planning on going back. claims 'school isn't his thing' and he is addicted to marijuana and cigarettes. He does it every day. The first year we were together it was okay, until our one year anniversary when i refused to have sex with him and he got furious and whipped a chair. I noticed he had anger issues but I never knew he would get abusive. (he hasn't hit me) He made me close my Facebook account and made lose my best friend.. I was scared and told her how he gets angry when I say no to sex, and he got really mad and yelled at me for telling her. He always checks my phone and is suspicious about me.. He bad mouths me in front of his mom. I can't tell my family because they'll call the cops and my brother would beat him up.. The problem is, I lost my virginity to him, so I love him, and I'm so ashamed of myself. I told him I don't wanna be with him anymore on the last day of school before winter breaks and begged him to leave me alone. (I literally cried) I felt so lonely and I need my friends back since he doesn't let me be with them and tells me they're no good for me. I've been hanging out with my friends lately and they made me strong enough to sustain myself from him. But today he drove past my house and randomly started talking to my dad. He called me after and told me, and I got really creeped out and upset because he has no reason to be in my neighborhood. He still texts me and he didn't respect my decision to break up. He says he's going to be my friend until I move on. I don't want him in my life but I can't get over him because I feel like he purposely guilt trips me and taunts me, and says I didn't keep any of our promises and calls me a liar. I'm naturally a loving person, so guilt trips work on me. Please help.

[Newton]

You should call police and ask for help.

[kat]

The fist thing u have to do is be happy he didn't take it bad and physically abuse u when u broke up, if he does come to ur house again say "I don't feel Comfortable with u coming to my house" if he still tries to guilt trip u ignore him he's not worth it stay strong honey

[Selena Marie Gomez]

I hate people like him so much. They dare call themselves a man only because of whats between their legs. Sweetheart, please don't be scared to tell people. Telling people is the first right thing to do. I can tell right away you're a good, loving, forgiving person. And this is why he's like this with you. He knows you won't do anything, he could actually hurt you and you wouldn't tell a soul. This could lead to him killing you, I sound dramatic, but I've seen this happen in my own house, as well as my family and friends. Break contact with him. Don't be sweet to him, stand up for yourself, don't be afraid to yell at him or defend yourself. Tell your family what's going on. Let me put it this way: You're a mom, and you want to know what your daughter is doing and hoping she's okay. What if her boyfriend was harassing her and you had no idea? She's scared and doesn't know what to do, but she isn't telling you. Put yourself in your parents and brothers position. They want to take care of you and protect you because they love you. This moron does not love you. You need to get as distant from him as possible and focus on your studies and enjoy your life. Please take care of yourself always. You're a strong woman, remember that. I'll keep you in my prayers. xx

[D R]

I'm curious as to why you are concerned whether or not he is abusive. The kid is, currently, a drug addict, lazy and probably not going to amount to much, in addition to having anger issues. He is ONLY a 19 year old kid so I would hardly expect him to be even remotely stable as I assume he still lives at home and dependant on his parents..

You are still in school and have so much promise socially and personally, don't waste your time on this kid who is going no where. Who is he to tell you to close FB or to do anything else, come on. He is insecure (like you) and because you are being so passive and letting him get away with bossing you around..... why should he change, if you don't.

If I were you the sooner you end things with him, cut off all contact with him the better off you will be. I strongly feel that you stay with him, you will really regret it. You are only a kid for a short time, don't waste it on this boy.