why I am still thinking about him after 10 years???

[amiga]

I am a single woman, I am happy independent successful person. 2 months ago I saw on the Facebook the profile of my ex boyfriend, it was my choice to leave him, but I don't know why since I saw his pictures with his family i had many contradictory feelings.by seeing his wife and his children I was convinced that we weren't suitable for each other and that it was a good choice to leave him but I don't know why I am still keen to follow his status and read very comments he writes, we are not a FB friends and his didn't know that I read his posts, and don't want him in my life but I like to follow him why I don't know. I am so sad I didn't regret anything but also, I don't know how to describe what I do ? do I still in love with him or just to remember the past??

[jcinhd]

probably both.... sometimes it never goes away. truth me I'm still in those shoes.

[WinterRose]

The reason your first sentence is true, is because of your question. You put your Life on hold! You never released him. He's still stuck up there in your brian, and there in no other room for another lover. Sad indeed. Life is passing you bye. Is this what you planned for your Life? I think not. But waching him on FB, and sulking and shedding tears for 10 years gone won't bring him back. Fix your eyes on the present moment and search for the joy you find there, because in the end, that is all you have....one successive moment after another, as one year after another pushes our Life's clock forward in time! Good luck.

[tigeress]

Seeing him again trigger those old memories. The human mind is a wondrous thing. It has the ability to repress bad memories, and make the good memories seem even better.

Now, you are seeing how his life has turned out and knowing that might have been you, you are wondering if you made the right decision. We all experience this at some point in our lives, including myself.

If you haven't thought of him in ten years, until you saw his photos with his family, then it probably isn't love. Perhaps, envy or remorse. On the other hand, if you thought about him frequently over those ten years and searched for him online, then it probably is love.

[relievedapple998]

We all want to hang on to the past, it makes us feel safer. Love is such a strong emotion that it can stay with us more or less forever. I still have a crush on a girl that I went to class with, but I won't stalk her. I can only hope that she's happy.