Should I Give Up?

[tyber]

This girl that goes to my school randomly added me on Facebook in December and has been talking to me pretty much non-stop. She always mentions how she doesn't have a boyfriend and hates how people go for looks over personality. However, with that said she told me that I'm not attractive enough to/for her so she wont date me but she also said she likes talking to me/hanging out and thinks I have an great personality. Now, I'm not like super crazy about this girl but I do kind of like her a little bit and I'm afraid that if I keep talking to her and hanging around her I'm going to really start to like her and just end up hurting myself in the end. She seems to think that wont happen because it hasn't with her other guy friends.

She has also mentioned that in the past she's had no attraction to friends but over time from really getting to know them and hanging out, she has very rarely developed feelings for them so I shouldnt count on it but it's possible. The thing is though, do I keep talking to her and risk me just liking her more while she still views me as undatable or is it worth the "risk" to hope things change? On the off chance she ends up with someone else (She's never had a boyfriend before and doubts herself), I'd probably get hurt/jealous too. She's always said it's her dream to have her boyfriend be a friend first. Any advice?

I cant really just cut her off. I don't really want to either. And no, she doesn't secretly like me or anything.

[PirinX]

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[Irwin]

Yes.

[Alyx]

No! it seems like right now she's friend zoning you, and she is clueing you that she wants to be in a relationship, at the same time. I know women can be confusing. I am one (: but I'm in a relationship right now, and before I wanted to become really good friends with him. You have to talk to her and start memorizing the things she likes.. you'll need to use them if you ever want a future with her ! just ask her simple stuff like birthday, favorite color, animal, food, stuff like that. DONT buy her anything though. It flatters girls but they don't necessary like it, because then it gets awkward between the two. Got it? I say hang on and try to become her bestie. Give her a cute nickname, she'll like it (: Anyways, hope this helped you some. Good luck!

[tagboy]

Your words
The thing is though, do I keep talking to her and risk me just liking her more while she still views me as undatable or is it worth the "risk" to hope things change? On the off chance she ends up with someone else (She's never had a boyfriend before and doubts herself), I'd probably get hurt/jealous too. She's always said it's her dream to have her boyfriend be a friend first. Any advice?

I would say you both have a wall built to protect against the possibility of pain. In one sense she is right start out getting to know each other friends do many times grow into being lovers,
Many guys make the mistake of rushing in and smothering her let it grow. If she and you are up to it no doubt will happen.
She says undatable you realize many guys use and abuse females could be she is afraid of getting hurt,
I think it would be on your part to take that risk your young and thru out your life you will like/love someone but she may not have the same feelings, remember you also pick and chose who to like/love Love is a gamble and you have to risk heartbreak to find out. I'm now 70 and feelings and love maybe the hardest to deal with You have to play the game to find out I retired from doing many shows in Vegas and worked with some greats listen to a few
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Even Elvis had his insecurities
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0dVy1f8yx-I
Can you just give up on someone you love I can't and back in 78 met a female and I saw an instant connect to bad she didn't but any to this day we are friends and she knows I love and adore her you just can't give up someone you love yes it hurts because I rather be her lover then best friend but I need her in my life, Life is a gamble and to find true love you have to risk it all, there is no other way