Should I give my cheating boyfriend a second chance?

[Sassy]

This was not an isolated incident, he would still be seeing (and still maybe) this woman had you not snooped around. It is hard to say he had no feelings for the woman if he had been 'dating' her for 8 months and she had no idea about you, not to mention the fact that he had planned on seeing her on valentine's day. He has told you exactly what you want to hear (it meant nothing, he did not love her), but it went on for 8 long months.

You wonder if he will ever cheat again?!? Well he cheated on YOU for 8 months, and he cheated on 'the other woman' for 8 months since she thought that SHE was dating him. He just does not want his world to change, he is hoping you will be naïve, believe him and sweep this under the rug. He may also be telling her he broke it off with you to see which girl gives the best offer.

[jeffrey f]

For the sake of your daughter, you should. Everyone does things they shouldn't sometimes.

[john]

My girl and I of 4.5 years recently went through a very similar situation. I messed up a few times talking to a few different women because I was not satisfied sexually or emotionally with my girl. To make a long story short, we broke up from Aug-Nov 2013 In which time I moved out. I started dating another woman and I found out later that she had began dating another man, she "ended things" with him before trying to reconcile with me. She asked me to come back, we had a long conversation before I moved back in November. Things were much better for abouth a month until I found his # in her phone again, I asked her about it and she told me he didnt answer and she apologized and assured me it wouldn't happen anymore and she made a mistake by calling him. We've been alright since. Speaking of myself "once a cheater always a cheater" is not true, I gave that up, I'm 29 years old. But you two should have a long conversation and see what you should do. I wish the best of luck to both of you.

[Chris]

8 months of lying and you're asking if you should give this guy a second chance?

Once a cheater, always a dirt bag cheater.

[MM]

it depends. if you love him too much and can't live without him, then you may have to give him a second chance. but you will have to be aware that there is always a danger that he will start cheating again. the saying 'once a cheater, always a cheater' is not true in some cases. some men can really keep their word despite the temptations.

but of course you have to be prepared so you can detect cheating early on. i had a boyfriend who cheated on me but i loved him so much i had to get him back. but secretly, i installed a cellphone spying software on his phone. i installed a software called auto forward tracking and spy. i did it so i could track his whereabouts, listen to his phone calls and actually read his text messages. i wanted to trust him again, and to me, this was the only option.

in your case, maybe you can get him back and do what i did. it will help you sleep better at night knowing everything that's happening with your husband.