Do I pursue him? he isnt being flirty?

[JDHoney]

I'm going to put in as much detail as possible, sorry if its boring. Im used to men mutually talking with me and us flirting, however, the guy i like at the moment doesnt, lets call him Ben. i realise this may be an indicator that he does not like me but ill just give some background.

he's in the same large group of friends as me, like over 100, as its a university society and I've met him a few times, every time I've met him I've said hi briefly and so has he, but ultimately he ends up talking to people he knows better and we don't speak that much. Recently we were at a similar gig and we got to talk a little there with a small group of friends and i saw this as an excuse to message him on facebook the next day.

this guy takes forever to reply, now he isn't on facebook a lot but he will reply every day or every other day. It seems bleak but i don't know whether to give up or not. Usually in given some kind of sign but I'm holding out hope that he's just not flirty at all. They aren't one word answers but i find myself asking questions just to keep the conversation going.

does anyone have any advice for me? Either on whether to give up or on how to get some alone time with him?

i always see him in a very large social setting so its not a one to one thing.

[Jade]

Hmm, thats difficult. Heres my advice. If you are seriously into him, and don't want to let it go, then don't. Keep it up. Ask him if he'd like to grab coffee or tea sometime with you so you can get to know him better. But, if its just too hard, back off of it. You can probably do better. Find someone who's just as interested in you as you are in them. Good luck! Hope it all works.

[Lily J]

Yeah, just keep on trying to ask him out for coffee casually, or finding out what his hobbies are and doing something that has to do with it. Or tell him about stuff you like (in a conversation) and invite him to go somewhere with you to do that hobbie or thing that has to do with it.