Do you view FB cheating the same way as an actual physical affair?

[Fierce]

yeah it's still cheating . You need to talk to her about it and express to her it's inappropriate. She has to respect your marriage the same way you do.

[bandaid_46]

The act isn't the same, obviously; one involves having sex outside the bounds of marriage. The other involves cybersex. So in that respect, they are not equivalent. HOWEVER, the effect it can have on a relationship is very similar, so in that respect one is as bad as the other. I wouldn't put up with either one.

[Wendy]

She crossed the line here. You need to confront her.

[Girly_Girl]

It depends on how deep the conversation is. If it reaches the point where they are talking about their previous sexcapades, that is definitely borderline inappropriate. And if it is making you uncomfortable, you should confront her about the issue. I don't know if I would consider it "cheating" but it's definitely playing with fire. They obviously had some history together.

Good luck.

[AnnMarie]

It's not innocent, it IS emotionally hurtful. I would never dream of contacting any ex's. They are an EX for a flippin reason.....don't let her think it's fine or YOU are over reacting. Very inappropriate.

LOL! IT's hilarious that people think its just fine and dandy! yeah! I've had sex and who knows what else with this person, we broke it off. the only reason people dig up old bones is cause they miss something about them. the person is in denial if they are tricking their brain saying yeah! we're just "friends" we saw each other naked and have been in each other but NO! no feelings there, we're just goody two shoe friends......WHAT A JOKE!!!! anyone who inhales this bs is a fool/sucker.

[SSGT.U.S.M.C.]

yes it is the same.
When you get married you vow to one another to remain faithful both physical and emotional.
Vows broken question answered.

[Piglet]

Cheating / an affair is physical sex with someone other than your spouse.
It is simply not possible to cheat over the internet.

[Curious]

Easiest answer is how would she view it if you sent pics to an old flame and she found out about it. I'd explain to her that you know she is in a low place right now and that you would love to help her out of there but you don't want to be disrespected.

[Carson O]

Sorry to hear. Was recently in very similar situation. I hurts your heart. I know and u don't know how to approach it. After many weeks of dirty looks when her back was turned I just came out and told her that I knew and she needs to make a choose. I consider it emotional cheating which always in the end get to physical cheating. Funny thing is she thought I had no clue but I had already logged IMs and emails between them. Guess it showed that I cared. It changed her. I figure if I don't tell her she WILL cheat so best bet to tell her and let her be mad that I investigated her rather than my heart broken from her cheating. Plus she just feels alone and needs someone who can't relate to what's going on in her life so she can get it of her mind. Involve her more and talk and do things that don't remind her of her situation. Also stop telling her things will get better. It will just remind her of how long that process is taking. Good luck

[Heather C]

Bottom Line if she feels the need to hide it she knows she is doing something wrong.. if she can openly tell you that she talked with the ex and sent him a picture of herself then it's not cheating.. Cheating doesn't have to be physical it the mental games that mess with your head.