Girls how would you feel if...?

[295]

There is this girl in my psychology class that I think is really cute. We have made eye contact a lot lately and I'm not sure if that is because she finds me attractive or because I was looking in her direction. There have been times where I can see her looking at me out of the corner of my eye but I can't judge if it is because she thinks I am attractive. I have been thinking of ways to approach her over spring break because it is bugging me that I didn't do it sooner.

I was thinking that maybe next class I would approach her in one of two ways. Should I come to class and sit next to her and subtly find a way to talk to her? Should I let her know I'm interested in her when I do? I always see her on instagram during class and thought of a way to do both. I sit next to her strike up a conversation and when I see her on instagram I'll ask her for it and follow her. On a Wednesday when I have the chance I'll make her my wcw (woman crush Wednesday) to let her know I am interested. How would you feel if someone did that toward you?

The second was to approach her after class and introduce myself and tell her that I am interested in getting to know her. Would this work better? Please help. Thanks!

[Elle]

hey, i think the woman crush wednesday thing might be a bit forward if you guys haven't been friends for at least a while! i'd feel a bit creeped out actually if a guy i'd only just met did that, but that's just me - i'm the sort that likes 'cool' guys, not the douchey kind of cool, but the kind of cool that involves not overthinking things and generally taking things as they come and as they are, and i think that's a reasonable approach when it comes to something like this! i think a better way to let her know you're interested is to sit next to her and then strike up a conversation - it doesn't have to be a proper one - even a light exchange of sentences is enough i think. my advice for you is not to formulate 1000 appropriate things to say before you say them (for some reason you seem like you might do just that haha) because i think planning conversations out in your head really disadvantages you in terms of showing someone your natural personality, which is ultimately what matters anyway, not a idealised construction of yourself. you should sit next to her, go "hey sorry is this seat taken?" and i don't know, ask about the class, make a joke about instagram, whatever you can think of. don't try too hard; let the conversation flow. ask her out later if you find that you like her! if she's going to mean anything to you, she should be able to converse with you on an easy and natural level. be cool!! don't fret too much, and good luck!

[Elle]

Just go talk to her. And tell her how you feel towards her IF she doesn't shoot down your convo with her.

[Funnelweb]

If she is studying psychology in college or in university she is likely to have learnt about feminism and about antidiscrimination.

If you approach her and she likes you then that is fine. However if she does not like you, no matter how nice and polite your approach, it is an unwanted sexual approach and sexual harassment. Most women will just say no thank you and leave it at that, but she may decide to make a formal complaint of sexual harassment to the college authorities. She may do this even if you only ask her once and take no for an answer.

The only safe course of action is to wait for her to approach you.

[Sage]

I wouldn't ask for her instagram. You should approach her after class and ask her out to lunch or coffee.