Girlfriend making our drama public on facebook?

[JJsmith]

So...I've been dating my girlfriend for about 7-8 months; long distance relationship. She's a bit younger then me, 10 years, and is, in my opinion, very transparent on facebook. What embarrasses me is when we have downs or fights in our relationship. There she goes on facebook sharing pictures/quotes directly relating to our current situation. She won't say what she's posting is about us, but holy crap, I know it is. She recently posted something about you make me feel alone, unwanted, depressed, etc. Ending it with, "you know who you are."

I've told her many times in the past i'm reserved on social media, I don't like putting my business out to the world. People take things they read in many different ways, and I don't want anyone thinking badly of her or our relationship. She doesn't get it I guess because look at what she's posting. It's absolutely embarrassing, to me, as a boyfriend, to read this stuff because I know her friends/family are reading it too. I've told her directly it is embarrassing and I wish for it to stop, but it doesn't. The next argument, things like this happen.

I feel what I have to offer her isn't enough no matter how much I try. The attention and time I can give a long distance relationship isn't good enough.

i'm not looking for answers, but guidance and opinions.

[DoctorWho]

Tell her one more time. Say you're embarrassed and feel disrespected. Your r'ship isn't public business. Then deactivate your FB if she doesn't stop this time... Or unfriend her. At least you won't have to see her posts then.

[Veratric]

She's made it clear that she doesn't care how this makes you feel and isn't going to stop. You both are obviously having problems coping with the distance too. I think it's time to break up. Neither of you are happy and the arguing is only going to get worse until one of you ends it anyway.

[BBG]

1) Your girlfriend is very immature not to mention passive-aggressive and emotionally manipulative.
2) Your girlfriend is not respectful of your privacy or preferences.
3) Your girlfriend does not have good communication or problem solving skills.
4) If you can't get along while you're apart, how do you expect this to work when you're not "long-distance" anymore?

If I were you I would be DONE. Go find yourself a woman, not a stupid girl, and make sure she lives in the same city as you.

[Sarah]

Its pretty obvious when two people are dating, and things like that get posted ... She doesn't need to tag you in it, but we already know who she's talking about. People are not as stupid as she thinks they are. Every time I go on FB and I see pictures being posted like that by other people, I usually go "UH-OH! Someone's in trouble!" ... They're not talking about their kittens or puppies, that's for sure.

However, to be honest ... I think its awful what she's doing. I absolutely hate people who do that. You have every right to feel embarrassed -- I know I would if my boyfriend started doing shit like that to me. What goes on in the relationship should stay in the relationship ... Facebook is a gathering place for drama. The last thing you two need (Especially if you're in a long distance relationship) is drama on Facebook. I know you've told her, but next time, threaten her, and be serious about it. Say, "Look, I've told you countless times that I DO NOT want our problems being plastered all over Facebook, or any other social site you may be doing this on. Our business is our own. If you're truly not happy here, then maybe we should break up. I can't change who I am, and I'm trying my best to make you happy, but if you can't accept what I do for you, then maybe you should raise your standards and find someone else".

Its cruel, but see what she does. If she says "Fine, I knew you never loved me!" Then good riddance to her. She had some mental issues that really need to be taken care of (and when I say mental issues, I don't mean that as an insult. I mean that literally. She has some issues that she really does need to talk to someone about -- maybe she's depressed, maybe there's an in-balance going on that causes her hormones to be way off, which would in turn cause her to seek more attention than what the norm can give her, etc). If she says "No, I love you. I'm sorry. I just feel so down, I miss you" etc. Then accept it. However if she does it again, I wouldn't look back on leaving. Its been 7-8 months in a long distance relationship ... I understand that being in a long distance relationship can be hard, especially on younger females, but I assume that you two can't move closer together or see each other more often, which makes it harder on her. Sometimes its best to leave them until they're able to be more mature and can live closer to you.