My girlfriend flirts with guys who write her on Facebook and Twitter?

[rio]

So I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years, and we love each other very much. However, I am still uncomfortable with the fact that when guys flirt with her and ask for her number on Facebook, she doesnt turn them down.A couple of the guys made sexual remarks (saying her ass was fat, things like that) and she still talked to them and had full conversations with strangers who write girls on facebook trying to get numbers.

On Twitter, guys DM her flirting and kept getting messages one day so I looked an there was 5 guys she talk to. I would be cool if she knew them and they were her friends, but these are random guys who write her about how sexy she is, and even tho she tells them she has a bf, does that justify her talking to them. She told one guy in particular when he asked for her number "i cant because my bf would be mad, but we can talk on here!!!!!", notice i put the exclamations because thats what she put, which lets me know she was somewhat interested.

Am I overeacting to social network flirting?

[ObamaRoll]

you should get girls to write on your wall and flirt with them

[Kaitlin Kist]

No. thats messed up. i used to be like that. But now i realizedd how wrong i was . Shes flirting with them for a reason. She likes attention. She likes guys to flirt with her. She should just be happy with you and not let anyone get inbetween that. She doesnt seem to even care if you see, which makes it seem like she doesnt care about you. If shes flirting like that, itll lead to more than flirting.


i agree with the other person. Flirt with girls on your wall and stuff and see how she likes it.

[inboxfull]

She thinks its harmless. You don't. She likes attention. You like her getting attention only from you. If you can't get her to stop then either suck it up or leave. Pretty simple.

[emtlpn2b]

I think your overreacting, only because she obviously could have given her number out but hasn't.

That said, it is bothering you, and she needs to be more sensitive to your concerns. If you were doing something and she said it was hurting her feelings, you would stop, right? The same consideration should be for you as well.

I would say take her to dinner, tell her how you feel about her, and that although your not jealous you feel uncomfortable when she talks with random guys online. Then try to get her to understand your position without getting defensive, and while getting her to take your concerns seriously.

Good luck!

[Haha]

She might be purposely playing with them, trying to make fun of them by replying. But you should try to do something about it. Maybe you should write an 'I love you' or something on her wall, to make it clear to other guys that she's already with you? Or perhaps talk to her about it, just sit down and tell her that it makes u uncomfortable. You can try to contact that guy and warn him, though I dont recommend that; he might be tougher. But do talk to her (:

[Md. Samsul]

Yes you are cuz its natural. You love her I understand but give me a true answer. If you see any hot girl don't you feel interested ? Answer is yes so leave her what she is doing don't worry she is yours . She is honest that's why she doesn't hide

[Emily]

well i can say it is actually a good thing she is keeping you in mind and telling these guys about you, so it sounds innocent.... with that being said it still isn't right to be in a relationship and act that way if it makes the other person uncomfortable, which it does. Be very careful how you word it, but calmly tell her " hey, you know those guys you talk to on (insert social network site), well i know you care about me but it really does make me feel uncomfortable the way 'they' talk to you." tell her you think she's very pretty, beautiful, or sex while you're talking to her ( she likes hearing it). and that it does make you jealous the way they are talking to her because you feel "lucky" to have her.

use "they" the key word because "you" sounds a little more like an accusation and that's not what you want to go for

saying all this lets her know how you feel about these sites and how she acts, but it doesn't give her much reason to get defensive. also us girls love GENUINE compliments and this should help make her more receptive understand to what you're feeling.