I went through my boyfriends phone, do I confront him about what I found?

[Lizzton]

hes gonna try and spin it on you, saying you invaded his privacy etc, to make you seem crazy untrusting etc, just be done with him, say you know he cheated on you and your done with him

[Jon042]

Sounds like a stand up gentleman. The sort of man you wanna raise kids with.

Yes, you should. He disrespected you repeatedly, behind your back. You obviously need to dump his ass (and hard), but more than that, you should show him the respect he couldn't show you by admitting that you violated his privacy, and telling him what you found. Taking the high road can be really satisfying in the end.

Or just tell him he couldn't satisfy you in bed, and that's why your leaving.



The low road can be fun, too.

[Lady_Serene]

I am very happy that you are leaving him first off. I personally think you should confront him. I am a strong believer in letting someone know what they did was wrong in relationships. Now, whether he takes this lesson and starts treating women right is another story. Besides letting him know what he did was wrong, it is simply the reason why you are dumping him, he needs to know why. It is not as if he can deny it. If he is foolish enough to continue to let his 'flings' know his passwords then more power to the next girl if she needs to find out.

[Greth]

Confront him and break up with him absolutely. How can he do that to you??? And I'm a GUY telling you this.

BUT HAVING SAID THAT...

Ask yourself WHY the fact that he left it at your house made you immediately want to look through it. Clearly there was already a suspicion, a lack of trust there. Without trust, what kind of relationship can you hope to have? Why were you staying with someone you don't trust? Maybe you should have got out of the relationship sooner in that case.
Just a note for future relationships. That, and do your best to avoid assuming that we are ALL like him. We are NOT.