What to so when my husband ex wife is always messaging my now in laws?

[!!!!!]

My ex husband's ex wife shares 2 kids with him and she likes to send messages to my now mother and father in law and his siblings on Facebook. I understand that they can have an amicable relationship since they share the kids and is always good to have the family relationship in good terms.

What I can see is they always writing her stuff like we miss you guys and we love you and very emotional with her. What can I do to win them over as much as she did?

[neno]

Just be yourself! You don't want to fake anything to win them over, you have to be real. Don't worry about the ex and in the laws. You are not married to them! I know it may bother you but your husband has kids with her so the relationship will always be there. As hard as it is, its something you have to get use to. I'm sure your in laws will love you, these things take time.

[Victoria]

I agree with the first answer. I'm sure they miss the kids the most may not so much be her as long as ur husband loves u dnt worry about it they'll acept u with time.

[augusts.child]

Honestly to win them over is to be the best wife as you can possibly be to your husband and they will love you for that.

[Barb Outhere]

"What can I do to win them over as much as she did?"
Firstly, do NOTHING to interfere with her relationship with them. That will only lead to resentment.
Second, be yourself. You should not trying to "take" her niche in their lives, but work on creating a special one that is just your own. Treat it like a competition for their affection, and you will seem mean spirited.
Third, work on making your relationship with your husband a good, healthy and happy one. The parents will appreciate the fact that you DO make their son happy.
Fourthly remember that you, as an individual, have just as much worth as she. Do not allow the thought of being second to enter your head.
Hope that helps.

[The End]

you cant. no offence but no one will see you the way the saw their sons first wife. she obviously had and continues to have a great relationship with his siblings. dont try and compete. let things fall in place.

[eldots53]

You really can't do anything, and you shouldn't try. You don't want to come across as desperate, and anyway, the ex has had a lot of time to create a relationship with the inlaws, plus there are the kids. Your relationship w them will unfold naturally, just as hers did. Just relax and be yourself. Just be nice and not jealous or insecure; hopefully that is part of your sweet and loving nature!

[Ouragon]

You sound kind of pathetic. Don't you think people like you as you are? If it bothers you to see this stuff on FB, stop looking at it.