Sending Facebook invites to a wedding as well as official invites in the mail?

[HIS!]

Why not?

Edit: Wow! What strong opinions you're receiving. ;-) I certainly don't think that a Facebook event should take the place of a formal invitation. However, I also don't think there is anything wrong with using the Facebook event invite as kind of a "save the date" type thing with friends of your age. I was assuming you weren't going to insist that Grandmothers get a Facebook so they could RSVP.

But I do admit I considered the possibility that some of your friends might RSVP via Facebook and those same people might be the ones you have to call because they neglected to return the RSVP card. If they said "Yes" on Facebook, you can always remind them close to the deadline that you have to have a definite answer. Maybe it's not covered on traditional wedding etiquette, but I think it's a novel and possibly helpful idea.

[Jason]

Yes it would be tacky.

[Krizzle]

Kind of defeats the purpose of your expensive invites! I'd refer to facebook if you're not hearing from people towards the deadline RSVP date.

[Masterrailway328]

I love FB but I would not send invites to my wedding from there! I really do think that is tacking! Now what is cool is to start a group under your new last name example " wilson wedding group".
I don't like the invite idea!

Good luck!

[miss understood]

I sent out traditional invites, and then after the RSVP date past, I sent out reminders through the email or Myspace, which ever source I knew the person checked more. It did help with responses. I would only send reminders to people who haven't responded though, as it is a little tacky to initially invite people through these sources. My wording was more of "please get me your response card" then "you are invited".

[Odie]

Yes it would be dreadfully tacky. Get a little planning notebook to keep up with who you invited and whether you have received their response. If that's too old-fashioned, set up a computerized spreadsheet.

[Jm]

Yes it would be terrible to do that on Facebook. If you don't have someone's address, by all means ask them for it on facebook but don't send a wedding invite that way. You can keep track of your RSVP's on word/excel/ or any number of wedding planning programs. Leave the social networking out of it. Plus if you don't invite everyone you have on FB (everyone you know can see these things) then some people may be hurt or insulted.