My parents don't trust me...?

[madison]

My parents used to trust me... a lot... but ever since they caught me cuddling with a guy i didn't tell them about, they've been on my case. A week or two ago my phone was acting strangely, so my mom told me she would take it in to the company so they could look at it. i was beginning to delete a few text messages but she said she wasn't going to look at any of it so it didn't matter... and so i didnt delete any of them. i trusted her to not look at them like she said. but she did. and i had some REALLY BAD stuff on there... like... "inappropriate"... (pretty much me telling a guy i wanted to suck his d***). then, she went through all of the apps on my phone and saw "meet me" and "chat roulette" which i dont even use! and she thought i was meeting strangers online and practically selling my body to them! not only that, but there was one conversation she read that was talking about how i cut myself (i know...)and she signed me up for therapy. and a lot of this sounds a lot worse than it actually is. i'm actually a really good student... im in band, debate, FCCLA, oral interp, almost all honors classes and im a year ahead in math, so it's not like im stupid or anything! and now everytime i go out with some friends, she either asks a friend to spy on me, or just stalks me herself!and she keeps telling me that i'm gonna be with a boy, even when im not! she called every number in my contacts (even the boys) to make sure they were who they were in my phone! she locked my facebook and twitter accounts, and wont let me hang out with my BEST FRIEND because she's a "bad influence" on me! im only 15 and i DONT want to live here until i'm 18! i just don't know what to do... they don't believe me when IM TELLING THE TRUTH and ive barely ever actually "lied" to them.

[Jo]

Barely ever lied?

Why should they trust you?

Seems to me you have done things that would cause anyone not to trust you.

Any parent would sit on you for awhile - at 15 years old. All this sexting, inappropriate apps - whether you use them or not - you thought about them and got them.

You don't want to live there until you are 18. Then don't. Feel free to get a job, pay your own rent, buy your own groceries ----- oh wait - you are 15 - you can't do those things legally.

Best suck up your punishment instead of offering to suck other people.

[Ashley Witz]

It's just the age.. And I personally wouldn't trust my daughter with boys either if she was fifteen and telling them she wants to suck their d***.
You remind me A LOT of me when I was 14-15 (I'm now 16) even the cutting.
If you need to talk, message me witzashley@yahoo.com maybe we can text.

[Cant think of name]

ha! u got it easy, I'm 15 and a girl also, I'm not allowed to go to dances, have friends who are boys, i move out when I'm at least 20, i can't wear mini shorts,i can't wear make-up, i have a "bed time" of 10:00pm on weekends 11:00 and I'm a gold honours student, i have NEVER done anything close to what you texted to that guy and I've never had fb all i have is hotmail and g-mail. life is unfair, but your not alone....heres the secret, make your mom ur friend. Tell her some secrets so she knows you trust her. Be nice to her, and help her when she needs it, don't think of her a mom but as a friend who cares about u

[nora]

Well, you betrayed her trust and when she was looking around ( which parents often do when trust is broken, until you can prove yourself again ) you only made it worse. You really shouldn't be saying that at 15, and you shouldn't have things on your phone that you don't use. She was just worried when she saw you cut, and honestly, it's better to have an open relationship with your parents. I do with mine, and everything works out very well To be frank with you, you haven't given them a reason to. They clearly trusted you before, but you were keeping quite a lot from them. Hiding things is just as bad as lying about them.

[George W]

Welcome to the real world, Sweetie, You have just learned there are consequences for bad actions.
You knew the messages were bad or you wouldn't have started to delete them.
Your Mom did right in checking them and is doing right with the action she is taking now.
So forget about leaving home. Your Mom loves you very much and she cares about you more than you realize.
So stop your pity party, little ME,ME,ME, and do what's right. Tell you Mom you are sorry and ask her to forgive you and then prove it by never doing such things again. You'll be a lot happier.