What should I do after my husband cheated?

[Cambita]

I say forgive him, perhaps there were flaws and he begun to feel distant from you and what ever else he told you. But he's trying that's more than many others guys could say. Work it out slowly; take your time with it.

[K D]

1- In my experience with talking to many people who have had affairs, what ever they tell you is only the tip of the iceberg. There is always more to the story. They only tell you what they have to to appease you and make you think you know everything.
2- Many marriages have survived infidelity. If I were you I would stop minimizing what he did. You keep saying things as if you were responsible for him cheating and making excuses for why it's not as bad as it could be. You were in the same marriage as him, you didn't choose to step out of it and betray your spouse.
3- The first thing I would do is maturely contact this other woman and ask her about what happened. Cheaters are notorious for throwing their affair partner under the bus while trying to save their own hides. I would bet she would be a plethora of information if she knew that. I bet you would also be heartbroken to hear what their conversations really were, what their sexual meeting was actually like, how many times he told her he loved her, all of the private intimate moments of your relationship with him that he shared with her, etc. Then when you have everything you need to know you can make a more educated decision.
4- If you are comfortable with what you find out, and you want to try and make you're marriage work, then you should do that. You need to choose to put your anger aside, meet with a marriage counselor and work it out slowly. It's a long process.

[Quietpencil668]

Forgive him, and forgive yourself, you played a roll in all of this too. Move forward..

[Herbert]

you are no tat fault.let me tell you I could spend no time with my lady but I love her and care more about her feelings then mine. if true love is there then it should be that way for you as well ... if u love him and can live with it then do if not walk away from it u cant make any one be what they are not.. he will be what he is no matter what ... so it is up to you .. love him or move on ?? don't put your kid through something that is too hard for him .. or her .. your the one who got screwed on this so sit back take all the bull crap out of it and decide .. do you want to go through this again or not ??? good luck I wish you the best ;;;