Should i give up trying to ever look for a girl friend? Do you think i should blame my self for my rejection?

[Superking]

Well in most cases I would freeze up and choke on my own spit hardly able to breath but before the christmas break I was finally able to tell my crush that i kinda like her and that i find her very beautiful no matter what anyone else saids. let me tell i have been crushing on her for about a complete year, She tells me she not into black guys(by the way she is black as well). It didn't hurt too much as I thought and we later added each other on facebook.

Now i use face book really often and sometimes post ridiculous things online, I comment on about 3-4 posts she made and posted a funny pic of me dressed in a funny spongebob suit which i also sent to other people. She didn't respond to any of my posts or comments from the start ... but later that week i got 6 notifications from her friends and i found that they were having a conversation about their creepy stalkers.

I'm not going to tell you the whole story but i will tell you that she called me not cute, creepy,stupid,and the worse stalker of all. then she just got tired of seeing my regular post with my friends and unfriended me.

So pretty much after asking a girl out i was rejected , added on fb, called ugly, stalker,stupid,and creepy, then was finally unfriended. She friended me again after i asked a friend to talk with her finding out that she just found me annoying and no where near a friend, and now she dosn't even speak to me not even during class when we sit right next to eachother. I tried telling her I was sorry and it was my fault for trying to be stupid and funny one day with the pic but she dosn't give any response.

I asked a friend that knew her and he said that she found black men ugly and she would always hit on cute white guys. I knew she didn't like black guys i said but i never really knew she was ....you know after men like that in certain races.

So yea my cruch crushed my heart and now i know she is a perverted whore who chases after white guys like a dog fetching a ball. still I tell my self that there is no way i will ever find a girl for me if i some how screwed up this bad, but others tell me it wasn't really my fault, she's stuck up and races, and that instead of apologizing to her I should had told her off by the way she treated me and the things she said.

I feel if had approached better or at least steered clear of her after she told me she wasn't into black guys I wouldn't be caught in this mess.

[Whistle]

First of all, don't blame her. Blaming her can only lead to hate and it's a waste of time. She has her preferences and you've been hurt by her beliefs. It's her loss if you are actually a good boyfriend and it's a good thing for you, too, because the way I see it, you can learn a lot of things from this.

Second, let's discuss your feelings for her. I'm not being an all-knowing person here, but did you really .like. her? You see, like can mean many things, as well as love. I won't talk much about this but I suggest before moving on, you explore your feelings for her again and try your best to analyze those feelings. What if you only liked her for her appearance or her superficiality when she was with her friends (now, hang on, don't react badly to this and don't deny it either.. before denying, think of it deeply and it's best to do it for a few days)? We can't really say we like a person from a distance and we can't really say we like a person when we're just seeing what he or she wants us to see. Sometimes what you see on the outside is a trick. They do it either to protect themselves because they have fears and worries or they do it for fun or both.

Third, your reason for thinking you won't find someone ever again. Do you really think this situation that happened to you is a valid reason for you not being able to find a girlfriend or a wife ever again? Come on. You can learn so many things from what just happened to you but you're seeing all those good experiences in a different perspective. There are a lot of people in this world and I do mean A LOT. But, you can't just rely on your other partner, you have to work on yourself, too... So this brings me to my last topic...

Work on yourself. I'm not saying to look for a Dermatologist and have her lather bleach all over you. I'm also not telling you to change your nose, your eyes, your lips, etc. "Work on yourself" means learning to love yourself so you won't have to rely on a person to comfort you on times when your insecurities are filling you up. "Work on yourself" means learning from each of your mistakes and looking at them from a good point of view. "Work on yourself" means bettering yourself emotionally and mentally. I'm not saying stop looking for a girl now. By all means, go look for a girl. Having break-ups from relationships that started out good or from chaotic relationships can help you grow to a better person. You see, jumping into a relationship when you have so many insecurities with yourself or problems will cause the relationship to break. When you've had relationship after relationship and looked at every problem you had with your girlfriend with an open mind, you'll learn so many things. So, don't rush. In fact, enjoy your youth. It's never too late and there are a lot of women out there. Rushing into one right now when your heart and mind is obviously weak enough to even just let themselves get affected by this girl will be bad for you and your soon-to-be girlfriend. Just go with the flow. If you do enter a relationship, go with it with an open mind and make sure you truly know the girl for who she is, not for who she appears to be outside so you also truly know your feelings.