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Kollege Kid · 05-12-2013, 05:13 PM

So my family thinks I'm gay, and now there's gay rumors going around where I live. It's almost like they're forcing me to become gay. I'm twenty and never had a girlfriend. I just want to be left alone. I'm in college full-time and working. People don't know why I don't want a girlfriend or why I never want to get married. I mean, I'm just a different guy. I don't want to f**k girls. I don't care about handcuffing naked college girls to beds and role-playing with them. I don't want to be forced to treat them like sexual objects. Girls my age only want sex. They want jerks who are experienced in the bedroom. I just don't care about being forced to do things with girls I don't want to do. How does this make me gay though? Or maybe I look gay or something? Here is a pic below. What is the deal? Why does a guy have to be gay if he doesn't want to treat women like objects? I can't help it that women don't want guys like me. I can't change who I am just to please others.

http://i1142.photobucket.com/albums/n602/cody879/Me.jpg

Emelie · 05-12-2013, 05:23 PM

made by themselves alone

kyle · 05-12-2013, 05:32 PM

Society has many double standards and can be unfair and cruel to those who do not 'fit in'. Most people see it this way: If you haven't had a girlfriend, you're either A) Gay, B) Autistic, C) Socially Awkward.

Some people just do not want to deal with the drama and effort put in to chasing girls, and some are just apathetic towards sex, A.K.A asexual.

Also, OP, do you have an attraction to the other sex, or any sex that is?

Kind of a personal story: I never cared much for dating myself, too much effort to be honest. Once my roommate said he thought I was gay because I didn't go out and bring home another girl every night... so I got tired of it. For that entire week, I brought home different girls the entire week, just casual sex, just out of spite and to prove my point. He stopped calling my gay after that and we set rules on what time girls could come overnight. There's no fun in having sex with random college girls though.

flyingtiggeruk · 05-12-2013, 05:45 PM

No, but unfortunately if you don't behave like everyone else you stick out and people, being the nosy and interfering types that they are, tend to throw around groundless rumours..... one being if you haven't got a gal you must be gay, even if there's no evidence to support it.

Witty · 05-12-2013, 05:51 PM

I dont think so

ziggy · 05-12-2013, 05:58 PM

fag

Paul · 05-12-2013, 06:14 PM

Lol you're sorta like me. You realize that almost every girls only talent is sucking.. Ill let you finish that. It's like today's most educated people only seem to have knowledge about pop culture and local news. And don't think it's woman that don't want you (that's kinda ignorant but not your fault). When I initially read this question I thought it was going to be something how even when you are in a relationship with a woman they still whore themselves out and expect you to remain the most loyal thing ever. I'm not scolded I swear... To answer your question you don't need to be gay, but staying single isnt that bad. Pick up an instrument or something, I sure as hell wouldn't have learned flight of the bumble be if
I was wasting my time with a woman.

Neil · 05-12-2013, 06:29 PM

Nah, you're being very dramatic, that's kinda why this happens.
You're so defensive, that people will think you protest 'to much'.

Stop generalizing girls, people, and yourself, and others will stop generalizing you. Because what you're saying about girls, tells us, you don't actually know any girls, you portray them as this abstract 'group', not as people, or individuals.
You know not every guy is the same(after all, you said, you're different), so why would you pretend, all girls are the same.

Gay, or Straight is really irrelevant, just be YOU, stop 'defending' who you are, or blaming 'girls' for you being you, and simply be you.

Focus on your skills, and talents, don't focus on everything you're not.

Michael · 05-12-2013, 06:45 PM

...it sounds like in some ways,,you're pretty clear what feels 'right' for you,,while in other ways you're still trying to figure things out-nothing wrong with that!!!

....it's clear you've got a very strong moral compass,,,intuition,,,that guides you--this is a great gift you have---imagine a world where we all were strongly guided to decency!

....don't worry about perceived peer,family pressures to conform to such a messed up society,,
,,,you're stronger than that!!!,,and someday you'll be very happy for the choices you make for yourself!

mikey · 05-12-2013, 06:54 PM

How do you come up with that conclusion?
As a straight male, it is 100% impossible for me to find another man attractive, on any level. Much less have that type of interaction with one!
However, it's normal for people to be curious to What's all the fuss about in the media these days?
So, don't fall for the "Social" acceptable thing....I learned over the past few years....some people are very vulnerable when it comes to social acceptance. Some will stoop to any level, just to fit in.
Never fall prey, Being your own man, living by good morals, and not falling prey to social pressure will lead you to a much more fulfilling life and keep yourself out of trouble!