Should I leave my husband for his lack of motivation and selfishness?

[windgate]

You need to get rid of him. He is not going to change! If he wants a mom let him move in with his mother! The bigger problem is that "HE WILL USE YOUR CHILD TO GAIN CONTROL OF YOU!"

He will threaten to take custody of the child. All because he does not want to pay child support. And you probably know that HE DOES NOT WANT THE KID!

This is almost always a fact! He can't afford a lawyer! Also he will get a free lawyer that will go along with him getting custody. So if you can afford to actually pay for a lawyer "That lawyer will do BETTER than a publicly paid lawyer. At some point your child will also have to have a lawyer. Possibly the government will hire a public defender for the child.

I have been through the courts for years. Different cases! And kids don't matter much in the court room. Kids don't have any rights until the age of 12. I only wish that you would have wised up sooner for the sake of your future children.

At least I am telling you where you have to go from here. Before you leave be sure you have in court records that state you have custody of the child. Keep copies of this court order with you.

Even if you do he will probably go and file custody and claim you unfit as a parent. Have court orders ready in case he makes off with the kid.

You need to plan ahead for your child. This means the court will order you go to counseling. Because every time MOM is considered TOP LOOSER PARENT. Even though she may have been the greatest and only care giver to the child.

If you have to join some group that will help women get a job. It is really to bad that parents like this would not sign off there parental rights when they don't want to pay child support. But it usually does not turn out that way.

Start talking to GOD about this situation as to what to do next. Keep your head up! Best Wishes for you and your family!

[rattomole]

What is your question again? Again?

Of course!!!

You are ready!!! Make it happen now!

[Sir J]

Yes, i would move on.

http://www.poetryfoundation.org/poem/178942

[jeffrey f]

Even though he has his problems, you should stay with him. You committed to him for better or worse and to love him unconditionally for who he is, no strings attached.

Gently encourage him to get help, but don't nag him.