Should i tell his wife?

[Juniper]

Don't tell his wife. She probably won't believe you anyway.

But you should absolutely tell HIM.

Just e-mail him or text: "So, I found out that everything you told me was a lie. It's a real shame that you think it's okay to do that, especially when you're doing the same to your poor wife who just had a baby last year. You're a jackass. Don't EVER contact me again or I WILL tell your wife everything. I know who she is and I know how to contact her in a way you can't intercept. So disappear."

Then block him off EVERYTHING.

I say this because he WILL try to convince you that his wife is just crazy, that they really are separated and she just can't let go, and that the baby isn't even his. Either that or he'll just get mad and call you a psycho stalker. Either way, don't give him a way to respond. Say your piece - do NOT let on that you're hurt otherwise he gets an ego boost he doesn't deserve - and let that be it.

[Poopy, Just Poopy]

Drink lots of Tiger Beer while you're in Singapore, and be sure to have the chilli crab, it's awesome.

[down-to-earth]

Of course not, don't tell his wife. She will find out in her time of the character she married. No need to hand her information to grieve at this point in her life..
Talk to him and tell him what you know. Then cancel your plans and encourage him to stop cheating on his wife and be a descent man,husband and father.
He'll probably find someone else to travel with and keep up the cycle of deceit and infidelity..but have enough dignity and self respect to stop your involvement with a very married man.
Just be glad you haven't gotten pregnant...just learn from this mistake and when we know better, we do better.
Be the better person and stay away from him.

[Happy-2]

"It's the 21st Century... sleeping with someone on the 3rd date is quite the norm."

That may be true, but, given your references to the all-caps incredible passion, that apparently resulted in this: "I feel so stupid for falling for him." The fact that he has some other chick wouldn't be bothering you if you hadn't fallen for him. So apparently, you are the type of woman who actually should not have sex on the third date. Only women who know not to let themselves fall for someone just because the sex is good should be having sex.

[Kasey]

Why get involved? Just never talk to him again. Don't be a part of the drama

[Rojina Aktar]

Hold your horses-DO NOT go sounding the alarm to his "supposed" spouse online OR offline: even though you arent in the wrong here you would be effectively responsible for almost soundingthe death knell on their apparent marriage. The ins & outs of one's marriage is best left to the two people wed to one another,and it should be best left well alone by an outsider (Im sorry,but essentially that is what you are). I personally would not be able to break the news of infidelity or cheating by one's partner simply because of the devastation I d reek on an innocent party.

I d simply inform him that I ve seen his true colours or know the whole truth-I d message him on facebook then cease ALL contact with him: block him on FB,delete his number & texts,if he calls your mobile block his number,his email-EVERYTHING. I seriously would NOT suggest you call him or meet up with him in person as chances are that he ll try to talk you around by feeding you even MORE lies or offering false hopes & promises and you d be too weak to resist (Im sorry,but I ve been in similar situations myself,and never WAS able to hold on to my resolve!).

You are NOT "stupid" for falling for him-we ve ALL been there at one time or another. He deceived you by lying: he isnt the first bloke to do so,and you CERTAINLY wont be last girl to fall for such charm. Stop beating yourself up over it. Just be grateful you found out sooner as opposed to later.



Good luck!

[george]

Don't listen to some of the comments here....you are not a slut. I'm sick of people letting the guy get away with bad behavior just bc he's a guy.... so it ultimately has to be the woman's fault...bullshit with double standards. I know exactly what your going through bc I went through the same thing. I am not a home wrecker at all and some guy lied to me about being married when I told him straight out I do not date married guys or guys with girlfriends. Trust me I went through the stalking on social media etc. and found out that in fact he was talking to other girls. He's a predator period. My advice would be to leave as soon as possible because it will be harder to leave if you keep sleeping him or prolong this dead end relationship. Women biologically get attached easily, men's testosterone allow them to be detached. Guys like this want to have their cake and eat it too. He will never leave his family. Feel sorry for his wife she is not the enemy...she has done nothing.