Should a married woman be sending friends request other men on facebook?

[Rosie Smith]

If they are old friends, or people you know in some capacity, you should have every right to send them friend requests. If you're just sending friend requests to random men because you want to have lots of man friends, then I'd have to side with your husband.

[yhilcgl]

A lot of marriages have problems because of facebook. Many people have labelled facebook as a relationship destroyer.

On the other hand, I know many people who are living happy lives, and who have facebook.

I think that if you know these men, and they are friends, its not a bad thing, but if you are the sort who wants to flirt with others, than its not a good thing.

I don't have facebook, I'm not married or in a relationship, but I think facebook is an attention-seeking site, where you crave for approval from others. Its all just a headach, don't bother with facebook. You will feel a lot healthier if you delete it, and live your REAL life, by socialising and meeting your friends in person.

[rume m]

depends, are you looking for the cutest guys and sending friendship request? if you are then no i dont think that you should be sending them any request. see the thing about cheating is not everyone plans to do it. for some people its little things that start it, like chating with someone you know you are attracted to and before you know it... soon start sneaking about and then the marriage is over.

[kim h]

No he is not right.

[wildmirage]

The answer may differ depending on the community you belong to; if you know that you belong to an orthodox community then you know that you cannot be sending friend requests to other men once you are married. I know many people have said that you can be friends without being in a physical relationship. But the thing is you need to face reality. And if your husband has issues with it, then you will only lay up unhappiness and strife for yourself if you continue on this course. I mean, are you going to risk your marriage for this stupid FB friendship? Its silly. You are committed in marriage to this man, so you will have to abide by this. Or else be ready for a life outside marriage. In Western societies, women befriending men is normal and not an issue. But in an orthodox community even your friend requests will be viewed as flirtatious by other men of the same community! And they may think of you as an immoral woman. There is a cultural divide which has not been bridged yet. Idealistic answers will not help you in your situation, practical ones may.

[wildmirage]

Let me just ask you this. What is your intent behind this? Is it truly just to make new friends on Facebook? The problem with making friends with men on the internet that you don't know is they very well could think you looking to fool around on your husband. My advice would be to accept friends on Facebook from men both you and your husband know. At least this way you will keep the peace with your husband.