Is my husband talking to an ex girlfriend sexually and saying he's gonna leave me & our kids cheating?

[Vanessa]

37 weeks pregnant with 2 year old. Caught my husband chatting on facebook with a married and pregnant ex girlfriend. Conversation was very sexual and talked about him leaving me and our kids. He says he didn't cheat because he was never physical. What's your opinion? Thanks! Also what about porn and lying about looking at it?

[Wet-Wet.]

that guys piece of crap. you obviously have the evidence, and if he'd say that to someone then he doesn't even deserve you. I don't care how much you love this guy, you deserve WAY better than that. Don't let him win, hes a loser.

[Christie Brucks]

i personally of the mindset that cheating is cheating whether mental or physical. i wouldn't sweep it under the rug, especially if i hadn't dealt with it. what he said/did was completely inappropriate. you have every right to be upset and hurt, please allow yourself that. then you decide if you can forgive him. now, guys can make a mistake. one mistake. but this might be the behavior of a serial cheater. i would get therapy immediately.

[Gulab]

Cheating... But that does not necessarily mean he is going to leave. Married guys don't take that step so easily. Perhaps he has his (unreasonable) reasons or had his vulnerable moments. Perhaps your relationship can still be saved. I am sorry that you had to go through this at this stage. Hope things will work out for you.

[andieoh]

OMG You got yourself a real jerk. I feel very bad for you. After the baby is born I would seriously consider getting a divorce. Men like that never change and he will make your life miserable.

[P]

Sorry to be blunt but he either has cheated or is thinking about it. He may not be leaving you but want his cake on the side.

[vichoo]

These are all common in today's world.Internet chats have less significance provided it may not go beyond limits.Leave it then and there.That lady may be sharing with him mentally more than what you do.Find out what he needs from you.Be a part of all his activities. Make him more comfy sharing time with him than staying away from him and complaining.Even after that he gets addicted to such things,You must meet a counsellor to advice him.

[kimh]

You husband just showed you,"who he is". Now, what are you going to do?

[June]

If i was you i'd certainly be mad. He has the gall to say his leaving you . he is talking sexual with her.Why don't you tell him to leave you now. Tell him to go to his parents house ." Where ever". Tell him you want some time to your self. Who does he think he is.
If you don't want to leave then get in touch with this women and tell her to p@ss of. If she doesn't tell her husband.

[Lovely]

It is cheating. He didn't think he did anything wrong because of no physical sex. That is his definition of not cheating but your definition is what matters. I think consciously getting turned on by anyone except who they are in a relationship with is cheating.