Checking teens texts- OK or NOT?

[Kaylin Bjornn]

I wouldn't think it's reasonable, that she doesn't trust you. Parents would probably say different. My mom does it constantly because she "bought the phone" (Not true btw) :-) But my mom is convinced I will do something wrong if she's not nosy.

[TangGuo]

I mean her checking means she at least cares. The only upside to this. Parents that do this to their children it's extremely wrong ;unless it involves suicide or something incredibly illegal and threatening.I would never do this to my child because if I raised them correctly I wouldn't need to be worried. My parents would sometimes look over my shoulders when AOL instant messenger was still popular back like 5 years ago. It used to bug me because they would read aloud "who is sexyybabe89000" or something and I'm like "Oh it's just a 40 year old man who wants to meet up wanna drive?" just to annoy them. Trust is something that needs to be earned but also respected. I say you should arrange a friend to send a questionable text to your phone and just freak her out where she wouldn't want to see your texts anymore. Have your friend be like "Is your mom still checking on your texts? That's so wrong. I would be so angry that my mom wouldn't have trust in me" and plant it in her direction and see if she continues this. The she will know how dissapointed you are in her childish behavior. An adult would convey their fears or suspicions with you; not sneak things behind your back. It's just not right. If not I would have a talk about this. if she uses the "I'm the parent I own you" kinda speech then that's wrong too. You need to make your own mistakes as a human to learn from them. It's just kinda a turn off as well when your parents don't trust you; just makes the relationship gap so much bigger. Another thing is if your mother is stalking your facebook you can friend her but in the status bar; change your setting to custom and type her name in so she cannot get any of your status updates. Also change your settings to her not being able to see anything at all. Then she can't stalk or complain and you have your privacy again.

[flatmoney448]

They are doing their job. That is what i think about it.

You are still a teen, and teens, ALL teens, are prone to making mistakes.

If I were you I'd just put up with it. If you fight against it they'll just think you're trying to hide things. I am sure you're smart enough to delete texts if you need to. OR start a group on FB that only includes your friends, so that you can post to just your friends.